Should I tip more based on my ethnicity?
The enjoyment I receive by partaking in great fellowship with friends or family at a restaurant is fulfilling to me. I look forward to good service as well as leaving an unforgettable tip at the end of my experience! But, if I’m being honest, I attend to tip a little more than 30% even if I’ve received bad service because of my race. I feel partly responsible because, I was a waiter once, and the stereotype of African Americans not tipping and stiffing is not far from the truth. Because of my experience as a waiter and because of my knowledge in what waiters go through, I attend to carry the burden of leaving an unforgettable tip no matter if I get the short end of the stick, should I give a crap?
Eating in a restaurant where there are mostly Caucasian customers, waiters and waitresses, there will be judgment passed on me and my family at times. This causes our assigned server to lack in service and be less enthused in impressing us. When this happens, I find myself wanting to stiff my server because of the judgmen. And yes, please believe there were times I’ve been judged so bad, I followed through with that action and if I stiff, there’s going to be a note left for the attitude my family and I received. But, to be honest I feel like I’m only continuing the stereotype, and I don’t enjoy fitting in any stereotype.
I want the server to speak about how great these black people were in tipping in hopes to kill the stereotype, but I know this shouldn’t be my concern. I’m a great tipper and especially a great tipper because I’ve been there before, but if you’re going to judge my ethnicity then the waiter or waitress doesn’t deserve anything. For me sometimes, that’s easier said than done. If you’re like me, what do you do in these situations? What’s your opinion on this subject because I need help in this area! Thanks for reading.